Dontbeapeoplepleaser

Don’t Be a People Pleaser

Dontbeapeoplepleaser

In this day and age it’s easy to become obsessed with what other people think of you. What will Sister Mary Church say if I don’t wear my stockings—will Brother Daniel Alter be mad if I don’t sit next to him in church? Sometimes it’s easy to become wrapped up in how others perceive you than to be concerned with how God sees you.

One of the most undeniable traits in humanity is wanting to belong or to fit in or if we dig a little deeper, perhaps it is really a desire to feel needed?  God created us to have relationships and to fellowship with one another,  but I think when the opinions of others overrule the calling on your life—then we certainly have a problem. I think what directly switches that thought is to remember that God himself made us a new creation (2 Cor. 5:17) and desires a real relationship with us!

I think it comes down to affirmation.  If you’re looking for a pat on the back or a promotion know that leads to you becoming a workaholic. Perhaps you’re concerned with those love handles so you rack up over time hours at the gym.  You’re fearful of what your friends may think if you change your wardrobe, don’t go out as much, and eat out less often to cut back on your expenses.

To put it frankly—you cannot be a people pleaser and servant of God at the same time. Shocking? No, not really. This is just an absolute equation.

I challenge you to lay down the desire to please people.  Have confidence in yourself and your abilities. Such confidence we have through Christ before God. Not that we are confident in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our confidence comes from God.  (2 Corinthians 3:4-5) Know that you are simply God’s carefully drawn masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10) and you are loved and accepted by God. (Romans 1:7).

Can you recall a time you put others feelings before your own or the calling God has on your life? Post them below and let’s all come up with a Holy Spirit driven solution. Selah.