Traversing Your Kid’s Teenage Phase

Even though I’m not a parent, I’m an uncle. And as an involved uncle, who has helped raise two nephews and a niece, I get a firsthand glimpse at the struggles of parenting a teenager.

My oldest nephew is 15 – going on 16 – and he’s in full-on “teen-mode.” He never puts down his phone/iPad, he’s constantly playing Fortnite or watching YouTube videos, his headphones are always in his ears, he’s always texting, he’s always in his room when the entire family is in the living room, and so on.

Essentially, he’s concerned with himself above all else.

We’ve all been there, diving into those teenage years where we start to become engulfed with our personal interests, our lifestyle, and the opposite sex.

But for parents, this teenage phase is often the most difficult phase of parenting. It’s hard getting through to a kid who all of a sudden is too cool for his own parents.

So, how do we deal with the teenage phase when it comes on strong? Below are seven tips on how parents can navigate “teen-mode” when it comes to their young adult:


  1. Communication is key
    Sit down and talk. Your teenager might not always want to communicate, but have a serious conversation regarding your expectations for them while living under your roof. And at the same time, even though you are the parent, make sure you are also willing to listen. For example, if your teenager says, “I feel like you don’t trust me,” ask them why and then commit to doing better. As a parent, you have to be willing to adjust. Rigidity rarely gets us anywhere! Also, have the tough conversations. Talk about the temptations that exist in the world. Talk about how to use common sense and avoid potentially dangerous situations.
  2. Incentivize their lifestyle
    When I was in high school, my parents always said to me, “You have one job: do well in school.” If I did well in school, my life was a lot easier. I also had household chores and was an athlete. If I woke up Saturday, handled my chores and did my workout, once again, my life was a lot easier. Make it clear to your teenager that if they handle their business in the classroom and at home, it will earn them more freedom.
  3. Stay in touch with their circle
    Teenagers are prone to be secretive with their lifestyle, including their friend group. As a parent, there are ways to combat this. For example, invite your teenager’s friends to do something fun. Take them bowling, invite them over for dinner, take them to the movies, and so on. Do what you have to in order to keep tabs on your child’s friend group. It’s important to know who your teenager is spending time with.
  4. Keep up with the technology times
    If you don’t have an account on every social media application that your teenager has, get one today. Follow your son/daughter on Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, etc. And even if you don’t want to follow them, make sure you know how the applications work, so that you know what your teenager and their friends are capable of within the app.
  5. Maintain your access
    Even if you do not check their phones, have access to them. Know their passcodes, even if you don’t use it. There needs to at least be the illusion that you are watching what they are doing. Also, have some type of protocol on their phones. For instance, make them hand over the phone at a certain time in the evening and return it to them in the morning. They do not need to have the phone all night.
  6. When it’s time, be a friend
    Parents are not supposed to be friends with their kids. Parents are guardians, role models, disciplinarians, teachers, and much more. Still, there is a time and a place to be your child’s friend and confidant, especially when they become a teenager and start to lose that childhood innocence and naivete. If your teenager needs someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on, it’s important that they can look to you and not feel like you will judge them or be too hard on them.
  7. Go to church with your teenager
    Make sure your teen sees that you are invested in your faith and are a strong, God-fearing adult. Lead by example when it comes to faith!


Parenting is hard, and there is no professional manual on how to be a great parent. But what is clear is that being involved with your teenager, as they attempt to navigate high school and their formative years, is the most important step.


Prayer Shut-In

Join us for our Prayer Shut-In, where we will focus on standing with Bishop Blake’s vision.

NOW Generation Sunday

The Children, Youth and Young Adults are gearing up to take over West Angeles’ Sunday Services for New Generation Sunday! Get ready to take the limits off of your past, present and future as we experience an outpouring of unyielding power in Jesus name.

THEME: The Standard of Sound Teaching

2 Timothy 1:13-14 : “What you heard from me, keep as the pattern of sound teaching, with faith and love in Christ Jesus. Guard the good deposit that was entrusted to you—guard it with the help of the Holy Spirit who lives in us.”

Get ready for the take over and supporting our children and young people as they go forth in ministry on September 22th; New Generation Sunday! A day of teaching you how to take the limits off!

Be a Thermostat, Not a Thermometer

Let’s learn how to “Be a Thermostat, Not a Thermometer!”
Join us for an amazing new 6-week Sunday School class with Dr. Nola Veazie and her husband, Elder Ron Veazie. Classes will be held from between Sunday, Sept. 1 and Sunday, Oct. 6, in MPB Room 5.
We will explore how to change negative energy into positivity. All interested women and men, 18 years and older, are invited to come!
Sign up at the table in the concourse, or call Christian Education at 323-733-8300, ext. 2345. Or, email at [email protected]
Seating is limited!

5-Week Entrepreneurial Training Course

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Our new Entrepreneurial Training Course is now only FIVE weeks at our Tuesday evening sessions. Obtain the knowledge & skills to start and grow your business, develop a marketing strategy through research, and how to secure start-up or growth capital.
Topics include:
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5 Tuesday Evening Sessions (6:00pm – 9:00pm): July 9, 16, 23, 30 and August 6 (Please note: Course Materials Fee is NON-Refundable.)
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Worship Service – Simon T. Bailey

Join us for our 8 a.m. and 11 a.m. worship services on July 14, featuring author and motivational speaker Simon T. Bailey!

Bailey has been named one of the top 25 people who will help you reach your business and life goals by SUCCESS magazine, joining a list that includes Brene Brown, Tony Robbins and Oprah Winfrey. He holds a Master’s degree from Faith Christian University and was inducted as an honorary member of the University of Central Florida Golden Key Honor Society.

Sunday Service – Pastor John Hannah

Join us for Sunday Services, at 8am and 11am, featuring guest speaker Pastor John Hannah.
Pastor Hannah made a career of changing lives early on. After receiving his Bachelor of Arts degree in criminal justice from Alabama State University, he served as a Juvenile Probation Officer in Chicago’s Cook County where he impacted the lives of young adults. Concurrently, Hannah served as a youth pastor for a local church for many years.
Today, Hannah is the Senior Pastor of New Life Covenant Southeast with membership over 20,000. In addition to his role as the Senior Pastor of New Life Covenant Church, Pastor Hannah shared his wide ranging humorous talent in the name of Jesus. He hosted a daily morning radio program on WGRB AM for 13 years. “The John Hannah Morning Show” aired on Inspiration 1390AM and was the #1 rated gospel radio in Chicago and surrounding areas.
Pastor Hannah is married to Anna Hannah, his wife of over 22 years who also serves alongside him.

Evangelism Conference

Opening Day Wednesday Luncheon
Crystal Room, 12 – 2p
— Speaker Evangelist Yvonne J. Biggs and introducing Bishop Elijah H. Hankerson, the President of IDOE
— Tickets are $25 and available on the Cathedral Concourse at Table 7A after Services.
— Bishop Hankerson will speak at the Service North Campus Sanctuary.

— Six workshops begins with a “Meet n’ Greet” at 6p in MPB Room 8
— Workshops run from 7 – 8:30p. You must sign up at Table 7A on the Cathedral Concourse after services.

Friday Fellowship Dinner 6:30 – 8p
Crystal Room, 6:30 – 8p
— Tickets $25.00 available on the Cathedral Concourse at Table 7A after Services.

Soul Winners Rally at the Cathedral
11a – 3p
— Keynote Speaker: Elder Lawrence C. Blake, Young Adult Pastor
— There will be Music, Preaching, Singing, Soul Winning, Food, Special Prayer and Healing Service and Vendors .